Marriage

Today, i found someone who shares a similar concept that i have about maturity and spoilt percentage. Haha...

She was telling me, "Go ahead and tell that person who always say that you are spoilt that its because you are very confortable with him thats y you are spoilt, if not from my point of view, i dont see you being spoilt."

True, its only in front of a person whom you are very comfortable with, in love with, like alot and /or close to that you will share your little immature behaviour(s) and act cute pattern(s) and drama mama actions.

My friend is happily married to this really cute and popular guy. She told me today with a little embarassment but sweet happiness that her husband calls her a "Dumb Blonde", then she replied to him, " Well you like a Dumb Blonde rite?" *Act cute tone and bunny smile* Hahaha... What can the husband say but yes and laugh at her.

Well, I have a guy friend who said to me once, "You so immature, who will marry you? Grow up first bah... maybe when you are older someone might consider marrying you"

I was about to believe what he said til today. Getting married is not about being matured first, because ITS MARRIAGE that gives you the next level of maturity. That kinda maturity to merge yourself as a person into someone else life which is different from yours. Of course if you miss this level of maturity, you will most probably proceed to the one that you think you dont need a man, by then you will most probably be left on the shelves FOR GOOD.

Personally, I feel that marriage gives you (mainly refering to ladies lah)
1) Sense of security
This is something that "The Men Dont Get It". Ladies need alot of sense of security. Even though rate of divorce is quite high but at least at that point of time, or period of time, we feel secure; knowing that there is someone there whom we can turn to when we are need someone to turn to (make sense rite?). Yah, I know, we have friends, but ASK yourself,TRUTHFULLY, there is a difference isnt it?

(for the men too) This Sense of security acts as a base, a kinda foundation that two person build. Its something that both the person can fall back on if eveything else fails. Think about this, the happiest time of your life is on the day when you marry someone you love, the silliest time is on that day when you have to act like a monkey before to see your bride, the most expensive time is on the day when you have to book hotel and restaurant, the most popular time is on the day when you are the lime light for the whole day, YOU LOOKING YOUR BEST is on that very day too.... If, at anytime of your life, you feel that you are useless, worthless, ugly, cannot make it, look back at that day, you have achieved alot in a day.

2) An additional privilege to attain our goal as a Taitai
Frankly, who dont wanna be a Taitai. Once again, "The Men Dont Get It", nowadays taitai is no longer the type that stays at home to play majong 24-7. Taitai still works but not the typre that requires 10000000% of commitment. Like my friend mentioned above, she is a part time Taitai and part time instructor. Got class go teach, no class go shopping. Modern Ladies no longer want to stay at home do nothing (jo boh lan), they love running around and spending their own money. They just need a sense of Security that they will be fed by their hubby. Simple? Well, of course im like that lah, I have friends who only want to spent the money their hubbies bring home lah. SO OPEN YOUR EYES and LOOK properly!

Well, of course, if you are like me, who is meant to be left on the shelves for good, nothing much you can do yah? Then again, No one will be as suay as me. YOu will have good fortune. :)