What i have learnt

In a relationship, its not about putting your best in front of your partner, but to let him see the BEST and the WORST of you.

Reason:

If he dont see your best, he will not know what good stuff he has missed. (Re: Your well controlled temper, Your kindness, Your readiness to do house work etc, everyone is different)

If he dont see your worst, he will not able to handle it when you unintentionally show him what you are made of. (Re: Ypur bitchiness, Your lousy cooking, Your bad tea making, even Your ugly bed making etc, it could be the slightest thing that you and i didnt notice but he did)

Mentality:

If you think you will not be able to show your best, coz you are not sure what's your best, then just be yourself. Pretending to be someone you are not can be damaging when he realise that you are not what you seem to be or you sick of not being yourself.

As for your worst, you dont have to delibrately be at your worst; like i've said, it could be the slightest thing that he notices. Thus, just be yourself.

In a relationship, you need communication, lots of communication; not one sided though, it has to be both ways.

I personally have problems with communication. I always thought that he might belittle what i think or consider me a bimbo to think in a certain way. Well, now i know, if he can think as such then he will not a suitable man for me as he cannot accept me for who i am.

Thus now, whenever i have thoughts, i will share them with him, no matter how small or stupid i think it is. He on the other side is always very encouraging. (Of coz, he is a counsellor) hahaha...